"If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow". - Chinese Proverb.
Today I am in a quest of finding out something about a feelling called "anger". I have analysed a few things about this entity. How tough and strong a person is, is not to be measured by the extent of his anger but by the size of the problem it takes to get him angry. A man's power is not to be measured by how destructive and powerful his rage is, but by the strength of his patience and self discipline. An out-of control anger is an emotional deficiency rather than a strength. I think every reasonable person will buy this point.
If we do a cost benefit analysis, look at the cost one pays for violent anger. A bully in a school can terrify a few kids but can never get admiration and friendship of other kids. A man who mixes rage with love is totally lonely. A rageful man does not come to experience true closeness with his partner. His partner never experiences happiness and is reduced to a nervous wreck. His children are scared and distant from him and may grow to be equally out-of control and abusive in beaviour. Many people suffer from a helpless rage. They don't know what makes them so angry. They may be trapped in their rage just like a person trapped in a house on fire.
So what is it like for a person who had a rage problem and got a handle on it? There are plenty of rewards waiting for those who decide to let go of their rage and violence. Patience pays!!